A couple of months ago, to coincide with the International Day of Happiness on 20 March, I wrote about the importance of being happy at work. I was subsequently surprised at how many responses I received and have decided to share 10 of the most popular with you.
- Mix with positive people
Do not waste your time on pessimists who have no confidence in themselves or others. Confidence, or lack of it, is contagious. Those who dare – win! The whole of life can be an opportunity if you so wish it. If you want to be successful, you can be! It’s essentially an attitude of mind.
The power of self-confidence has enabled individuals to build powerful companies, huge bridges, canals and railroads. Others to design great ships or cars. Architects, to build amazing buildings that reach for the sky. Chemists to research and discover life-saving drugs. Composers and musicians to write and play music that lifts the soul.
All these individuals were born, like you and me, as ordinary babies but learned how to make their mark on mankind. Some had natural ability – all nurtured a mindset to succeed.
- Take responsibility for when things go wrong
There are times when things do go wrong. A client didn’t turn up for their appointment [Did you text to remind them?]. Employees make mistakes [Did you explain to them exactly what to do?]. A customer did not deliver on time [Did you insist on unrealistic deadlines?].
- When you are in the room, be in the room!
Do not take phone calls when talking to someone else. The person you are sitting with should not be made to feel devalued or unimportant. When you are with someone, give them the respect of your full attention.
- Listen attentively
How many times do you sit with someone only to hear the sound of your own voice? Constantly interrupting means that ‘I am not interested in you or in what you are saying because I am more important!’
- Learn from your mistakes
When things go wrong, do not incessantly complain or go into ‘victim mode’. Instead, stand back from the situation to see what learning you can gain from the disappointment. Mistakes can often prove to be valuable learning experiences. When something goes wrong, turn the experience into the opportunity not to repeat it in the future.
- Keep confidences
Do not gossip. Sharing a confidence with someone is special, so never be the one to break it or no-one will ever confide in you again and you will become known for someone who is untrustworthy.
- Seize the opportunity – carpe diem!
Do not always fear what might happen if things go wrong. It is up to you, primarily, to ensure that things go right! Risk is an essential part of living for otherwise we would all sit in a corner covered with a blanket! Today, and every day, is a very precious opportunity. Do not waste it!
- Learn the art of forgiveness
Forgive others. Everyone makes mistakes including yourself. Learning to be gracious and understanding then forgiving will make you feel better within yourself. Nursing a grievance can destroy you from the inside.
- Trust others
You may have had a bad experience because you trusted someone and they let you down. Thereafter, you decided that you were never going to trust anyone again. That would be a mistake. Be a good judge of character and be trusting.
- Think of others
Never be self-centred. Doing things for others can help you feel not only happy but will also give you a great sense of satisfaction. Helping others in your daily life can unleash feelings that you didn’t know you had inside you and put a smile on your face because you know that doing something for someone else, does something important for you also.
There are countless ways to help ourselves feel happy. Happiness comes from inside; from the way we consider and deal with both our own needs and the needs of others.
I don’t know precisely that which will make you happy but maybe you do and if you don’t, then now might be a good time to find out.
- Confidence and happiness are contagious
- Be interested in others, not self-centered
- When you feel good inside – people notice!